maarmie's musings

Thursday, February 16, 2006

Gag Me

While attempting to check my e-mail, I stumbled across this little gem, a veritable fount of indispensable information. It's a Cosmo-esque diatribe about WHAT MEN WANT, WHAT MEN NEED, WHAT MEN FIND ROMANTIC and HOW TO HOLD THE KEY THAT UNLOCKS HIS DESIRE. Of course, I have my two cents to add. Keep in mind I've recently been on the receiving end from not ONE but TWO assholes in a row.


"Many stereotypes about men abound: They don't like to cuddle after sex; they're only interested in women with model-thin bodies; they hate to show their feelings and vulnerabilities. Not true, say guys. So we gave them the floor to set the record straight. Here, the top things men want women to know, straight from the mouths of real men."

The preceding paragraph requires no response. It's THAT laughable.

1. Kissing and romance mean as much to us as sex. "There has to be an emotional foundation for sex," says Ed Fertik, a Brooklyn, New York, bachelor. It's not that men don't love unforgettable sex; they do. But in a serious relationship, they want it preceded and followed by romance, kisses, hugs, and a loving touch. Contrary to the notion that men just want to roll over and play dead after intercourse, many guys say they do want to cuddle afterward. Some will even admit they'd like you to read to them or rub lotion on their bodies (and they'll do the same for you, if you ask!).

Read to them? Rub lotion on their bodies? I think someone got that a little mixed up. That reading material is most likely a Penthouse and that lotion? It's not for just ANY body part, baby.

2. We like you just the way you are; no models required! Hollywood and fashion magazines may make women feel they must have taut tummies and look model-perfect, but guys say they appreciate real women with foibles and imperfections. And personality counts! "Warmth is a much bigger turn-on than cleavage," says Clifford Berkley, a divorcee in Staten Island, New York.

No wonder you're divorced, Clifford. You're a fucking liar. And a bad one at that. Everyone knows guys want a girl with huge boobs and no brains or waistline who doesn't really seem to have any needs but will spread her legs whenever he wants her to.

3. We love when you cook us a meal, knit us a scarf, or buy us something we need without our asking. Guys aren't saying that they want women stuck in conventional household roles, just that they enjoy the surprise of a special meal on the table, a homemade gift, or a thoughtful gesture. "I love it when my wife buys me something she knows I need for work," says Douglas Hanau, a New York City newlywed. "Or when she prepares a meal for me that she's never made before."

BUUUUULLLLLLLSHIIIIIIT! It's called "get in the kitchen, bitch, and make me some dinner before you do the dishes, take care of the kids and clean the fucking house. Who cares that you've just put in a 10-hour day at work, I AM THE MAN OF THIS HOUSE, AND I DESERVE SPECIAL TREATMENT!"

Douglas, I have a feeling you won't be married for long. That is, unless your new bride is the mail order variety from Siberia.

4. We want to be constantly admired. Guys know they're not perfect, but they want you to tell them they are, or at least highlight frequently the things they do best. If he's great with stuff around the house, ask him to fix something by telling him what a great job he did on the last fix-it task. If he's a gifted writer, ask him to write you love notes, and tell him how much you love his way with words. He wants you to look for his strengths and applaud them -- often! There's also no bigger turn-on, guys say, than a woman who notices the small things he does to be considerate.

If he goes to work, he wants a gold fucking star. If he picks up a towel, he wants a gold fucking star. If he goes into the next room to fart, he wants a gold fucking star. If he makes you come, he wants a gold fucking star. If he isn't a completely insensitive clod who wouldn't know how to treat another human being well even if his life depended on it, he wants a gold fucking star. My advice is this: Do something worthy of those stars, assholes. The basics doesn't cut it.

5. We appreciate when you contribute financially, especially if you can afford to. Men like to treat women to special things, but they also like to be treated, in return. Share the financial burden of a relationship and know your guy's financial situation; be sensitive to what he can afford. Don't expect a $200 night on the town if that's the sum total of his monthly savings. And don't forget to break out your wallet. "If she earns a good living and is otherwise liberated, I appreciate her helping out," says Fertik. You don't have to split the bill on every night out; just take out your wallet some of the time, men suggest.

I can't make fun of this one. I agree.

6. Being kind to our mothers, siblings, and annoying relatives scores big points with us. Guys so appreciate when women go out of their way to be kind to their families. If there's a relative who's particularly annoying, remember, your man often feels as much frustration or antipathy toward the person as you do. But blood is thicker than water, and a little patience and effort go a long way. Bring along a special treat for a big family meal; send a warm thank-you note after you've visited; or participate in the weekly phone call your guy makes to his mom. Ask him how he prefers you to show your interest.

This translates into, "Mommy will always be more important to me than you are. In fact, I often think of my dick being inside HER pussy while I'm fucking YOU! Please remember that this attached umbilical cord is necessary for my survival."

7. Unusual spots for sex turn us on. Men like to get out of the bedroom. They'd like you to offer up your bathroom, your kitchen, and other unusual spots for a special afternoon of love-making. "There's nothing like sex in the afternoon," says Berkley (especially, he says only half-jokingly, if you'll let him indulge in watching a TV sporting event later). And when it comes to fantasies, they're happy to play along with yours, and they love for you to indulge theirs. Another guy request: They want to talk to you about sex, openly and candidly.

Well, if you can get it up and keep it up, I'll fuck you anywhere you want. OK?

8. We want to be validated all the time. It may sound like psycho-jargon, but men like to talk about their feelings, and they like when you echo those feelings back to them so they feel understood. Guys also love to talk about work, interactions with colleagues -- and sports. Give them their rants. And if they are creative, or concocting an idea a minute for work, they want to lay out their ideas for you to applaud. So applaud! "There's nothing that turns me on more than a girl who asks me to explain the logistics of football calls," says Berkley. "It can be a great bonding moment."

Everyone knows that the male ego is the most fragile thing on this planet and will wither and die without constant stroking. My response is this: I have no problem being supportive and complimentary, but you need to return the fucking favor, buddy. I'm not your goddamn nanny.

9. We need you to encourage us to take risks, and support us if we fail. If your man has a chance for a promotion at work, he wants your encouragement and support. Build up his confidence by listing all the reasons he should try for the promotion. Also, guys don't want you to change their bad habits; they say they're well-aware of the things they're not so good at. But you can gently offer suggestions for coping or altering annoying habits. "Great is the gal who helps me make fun of my foibles," says Berkley.

Grow up. Be a man. Period. If I have bigger balls than the quivering mass of testosterone standing in front of me, there's no quicker way to make my dick shrink.

10. We can have platonic friendships with females. Don't assume we've got something to hide if we want an hour to play racquetball or four hours to play golf, guys say. Female friends are also a necessary ingredient in many men's social routines -- and work connections make it likely that some of a guy's close friends may be women. If you're concerned that a friendship is turning romantic, talk to him candidly about your worries -- but don't presume foul play.

Yeah. Right.

11. We like women who are assertive, but not aggressive. If you want to try something out in bed, guys are almost always game. Assertiveness is also welcome when planning a weekend getaway, a vacation or even a night out. Let your guy know what you like in a soft-spoken, caring way. Others prefer subtle assertiveness. "Manipulate us in a feminine way," says Berkley, "but don't let us know we're being manipulated." That means don't try stuff that's too strange too soon in a relationship; talk and communicate.

Manipulate us in a feminine way? Be soft spoken? That's it! I'm becoming a lesbian!

12. We're not as different from you as you think. Books that tout the differences between the sexes may be hot on the best-seller lists, but guys yearn for the same emotional connections that women do -- they just express those needs differently. "Guys who tell you they don't need to be close and bond -- with women or with each other -- are lying," says Berkley. To keep the bond strong, ask your guy often what you can do to make him feel more loved. He'll love you back even stronger.

Fuck men.


dsvkubnkusdbfib said...

That is the biggest load of crap i've ever read. When the hell did men start becoming a bunch of ass licking queers !! Why the hell don't we just say what we fuckin' mean we wan't T&A and tons of it, Bar-B-que and beer. That's it period, for Christs sake !!

maarmie said...

John G.'s profile, if you click on the link that is his name, says that he's very into his Aryan heritage and spreading his Aryan seed. He appears to be anti-Semitic as well. Something about Hollywood being full of those godless Jews or something like that. Well, John, your comment goes along very well with your profile. You, my dear, are worse than an "ass-licking queer"; You're a "bubba".

dsvkubnkusdbfib said...

Gee Maarm your so hard edged and dark, with your razor sharp tonque and stinging sarcasm. How can you go on for another moment in this hopeless abyss of meaningless existence. Guess your just tough enough, huh. This shit is played out genius, is this the best pathetic turd of a personality you could crap out.
P.S. Not anti-semetic, just hate fuckin' jews. It amuses me that they are so comprehensively despised that they actually had to come up with a term to try to guilt us into putting up with there bullshit.

no-nuthin said...

To John G.:

You have a very interesting way of looking at things. I think you should start your own blog, so you can share your insights and observations. It would be particularly intriguing to read anecdotes about your personal experiences with Jews and other non-Aryans.

I hope you find a movie you like soon.